Happy new month guys!
Welcome back to my blog.
blogging writing. Lately, I’ve been more focused on “creating content” than actually sharing my thoughts and inspiration. I got to vlog my last weekend (actually 2 weekends ago) and I’m quite impressed with what I put together. I see myself doing this for a long time because it’s something I truly enjoy with or without the audience. I’ve secretly considered doing this full time. (Dear Lord, please don’t let my boss see this please. LOL). Don’t get me wrong, I love my job.
Anyways, today I decided to share 2 big misconceptions about relationships (In my opinion) I would also appreciate it if you guys let me know below what other misconceptions you know. If you follow me on snapchat @dvpe_s, you would probably know that i’m no longer a single pringle like some of y’all 😛 🙂 so if you’re still reading this post I’m passed that stage of my life…not that I’m married, but i’m in a very happy place right now.
3 big misconceptions about relationships
So, over the course of this relationship, I’ve heard all sorts from people, both online and people I know personally. In fact let me streamline it to Nigerians. I’m a bit worried about this mindset and I thought I should share my thought’s as well as see what you all have to say about this.
1. You “Just Know” When he’s Right for you, You will have that “peace”.
I was chatting with a friend last night and she also talked about having that “peace”. Yea…I quite agree with that but one thing I know for sure is that love is a choice, and you can choose to make a relationship work or not. I think one of the biggest misconceptions about love is that you “just know” when you find the “right one.” That mindset seems a bit too convenient, It takes off all responsibility of paying attention to the right or wrong things. Just my opinion, what do you think?
Someone shared this with me and I agree “In my opinion, that feeling of ‘peace’ or ‘knowing’ can change. There are times when I’ve met someone that I ‘knew’ was the one! I could swear that I felt ‘peace’ about it too….but down the line, over time, events occur…and everything changes. So…I ? agree that it’s down to the CHOICE. Its about choosing someone, and choosing to make it work with that person.”
2. you need to be compatible for the relationship to work;
Last time I checked my dictionary Compatibility means “to be able to exist or occur together without problems or conflict.” or in realistic terms “to be able to exist or occur together with LIMITED problems or conflict.”
Regardless of how I tweak this definition, I still have some problems with it. What if two people from extremely different backgrounds love each other and are determined to make it work regardless?
I’m not ruling out compatibility off the checklist but I do think Love is Key (and I’m emphasizing on the Love of Christ). If the two parties truly love each other and are determined to make it work, that will solve most of the problem…I think. Again, I’d love to hear what you guys have to say.
This post was inspired by a Video SISI YEMMIE put up a few months back. I will insert it below.
You guys should let me know what you think below. I’m curious.
SO, I have to rush off to work, I did not have time to edit my picture. Sigh! ( I will definitely change it later)
The dress is by @SIIMONA
Shoe by @LIKAVOGUE