Ever since I got married, some people have asked me for relationship advice and I’m like.
I’ts really difficult giving relationship advice because everyone is different and every relationship is unique. So let me warn you beforehand… I’m that friend that’ll ask you to dump him if he’s not meeting up. Yup!
well… I would only do that If I’m asked for my opinion, especially If I truly care about you.
So yea…get ready for realness in this post…
There are numerous tips for a successful relationship most of which should be tailored to suit specific individuals.However, there a some general tips that apply in every relationship and I’ll be sharing just one in this post which is….
Don’t ever settle.
My hubby encourages me to be my best self. He upholds me spiritually and supports all that I’m involved in. He is selfless and his integrity is inspiring. These are just a few qualities in him that I admire. These qualities are very, very important to me.
Like I said, to me.
Those qualities may not be important to you.
In fact, they may be boring to you.
And that’s okay because we are all different, as long as you know what values are important to you in a relationship and ensure you stick to them.
If you’re looking for a “turnt bae” or a socially accepted person or an Instagram- picture – perfect person, that’s totally up to you. LOL I just had to say “Instagram- picture – perfect” because Instagram (and social media in general has deluded a lot of people… ME INCLUDED. I’ve been in love with a certain couple on Instagram for a while now, I followed up with their wedding and I was genuinely excited for them only for the lady to leave him after a short period of being married saying “she no wan do again” That she had been depressed severally even before the wedding because of him…
I was soo sad and disturbed (you would even think I actually know them personally. but don’ LOL) because I just could not understand why she went ahead to say yes to him when she knew for a fact that he didn’t make her happy before the wedding.
So as a young wife (June makes it 6 months! yay) I would encourage anyone reading this (well..except you’re already married), to never settle for less especially regarding moral values (Honesty,Integrity, Sincerity, Considerate, Respectful, Compassion, Forgiving and many more). Moral values are what the relationship is built on. Its the foundation of that relationship and you really can’t afford to compromise.
There’s a funny quote that says,
“I’m very easily satisfied, I’m always content with the best.”
Basically, If you’re not in a relationship thats the BEST for YOU, then leave.
Also, by the way, I’ve been there. I’ve definitely been with guys who were not meeting up… Trust me. One was angry every second and was controlling too (at least to me) & another one was just indecisive. Pretty much, I made a very conscious decision to leave each relationship because those qualities didn’t fly with me. (with me)
After reading my post, my husband had some contributions to make:
It’s important to remember that marriage is two complete people coming together not “two incomplete people coming together to be complete” and yes we can be complete, Colossians 2:10 says “…and you have been made complete in Christ, who is the head over every ruler and authority”
So while you are not settling on the values you expect from your partner, you should also not settle on yourself. Be the best version of yourself, keep improving daily and be everything you want to see in your partner. Don’t wait for anyone to complete you, you will naturally attract the best if you put in the best
Point: simply don’t settle for anything less than you believe you deserve. At the end of the day, your partner is a reflection of YOU.
P.S. I’d love to know what you guys think makes a marriage/relationship unique? And a step further: what advice can you recommend to someone in a negative relationship?
EXPECT NEW POSTS EVERY FRIDAY!!
Wedding photography by Tunde Adewole